Rejection is never easy
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Yesterday evening, while having dinner with my hubby, he told me he was being headhunted. I was surprised and excited. That means, I can stop doing paid posts LOL..
Back to the topic, he was asking my opinion actually. It wasn’t an offer from a bona fide headhunter, it was from his colleague. See, this guy who is a Norwegian had recently re-located back to Norway for work. He and my hubby were colleagues for more than 5 years while he was in Malaysia. They have a pretty good relationship, off and at work. That probably didn’t come out right but you know what I mean.
The only problem is, work wise, this guy isn’t very organised and not very dependable when it comes to work. For other things like partying, he is the total opposite. So, anyway, he is quite a “senior” in the organisation. Senior in terms of rank and age (he is grandfather by the way). He has quite good affiliates with some of the top people. He told my hubby he plans on setting up a company in Malaysia with his buddies and he wants my hubby to join him, more like work for him (while he reap the profits, sunofagun!!). Giving him prospects of a good pay and what seemed like the moon and the stars. Bear in mind though, this so-called company hasn’t been set up yet.
The first thing I said was “no” cos I too know him and his “style”. I told my hubby that if I was working, it may be ok to try it out but since I am not (and PP is not a long term solution for me), its too risky. I mean, he couldn’t possibly do this on the side, he would have to quit his job. As much as he would love to since he has been with the company for the past 10 years. It is his first job after graduation. I know he wants to do something different for a change. Anyways, my hubby did say he was also a little apprehensive about the offer and I guess he just wanted my affirmation on this.
The advantage of this is, my hubby can make an informed decision whether to hop on or not by virtue of them having worked together. The disadvantage is, how do you reject the person? That is the difficult part. If he was just some guy, a simple “I’m not interested” would suffice. This time, its different. How do we tell him why we are not interested? That you are not someone I can rely on and I can’t possibly feed my family with you as my boss? I mean, that is the truth. Just as he knows my hubby would be perfect for the job (not exactly his words, I’m just sugar coating it :P) but we too know that he isn’t perfect as a boss.
I told my hubby to sleep on it and maybe, just maybe he will get the answers in his dreams. Then, I woke up late this morning and he had already gone to work. I was pondering about this and decided to share. You might have a similar experience that you could share or if you know what to say in such circumstances, I would very much like to hear it.
