OK, I am talking about Jamie Lynn Spears. Before you go all awry on me and scream cold-blooded murder, wait!! Hear me out. I think she is right in getting pregnant at 16. No seriously, being 16 and pregnant is not such a bad thing and I’ll tell you why. First of all, there would be no such thing as back-aches or bone aches or what-ever aches. You have young bones that tolerates pregnancy, child-bearing and the after-math perfectly unlike a 30 year old.
When you child is born, you don’t have to take care of him/her cos really, child services or your mother would be given that responsibility since you are after all still a child yourself. You get to have all the ME time, no responsibility and will still be “the Mother”. The best part is while you are having all the ME time, you get to be a teenager and have fun.
Just think, when you’re child is 14, you’d only be 30. I mean, these days, 30 is the new 20 so you are practically best friends or sisters. You get to do all the hip, cool and happening things with your child. You could really be BEST FRIENDS for life and double date. But just make sure the line is clear as to who is supposed to date who and no swaping of dates. That will be too gross eeewwww…
If your child follows in your footsteps and has her or his child by the time she or he is 16, then you will be a grandma before you reach 35! How cool is that? In a few short years, I will be 35 and god knows being a grandma is no where near my “to-be” agenda. You will be the world’s hottest grandma. Instead, you will be known as a GLAM-MA not a GRAND-MA.
You know what? I think I have just solved the age-old question a lot of women face these days - When is the right age to have a child (you know, the thing about career and all)? Get pregnant at 16 and you will never have to worry about not able to have fun, not able to pursue a career, not being able to date men…You can have it all.
Note : In case you’re wondering, I am being sarcastic. No way in hell should you get knocked up and pregnant at 16. They are kids themselves!
Some family updates. My sister is feeling alot better. I took her out in the evening yesterday to have dinner at a local mall. Things are still uncertain. Luckily, she has not done anything stupid. I hope things will work itself out soon enough. Thanks for everyone’s concern. I am deeply touched by your encouraging words even if we have only known each other online in this short period of time and haven’t even met in real life. Really appreciate it.
I shall stop with my sister for the time-being until further development. I am happy to say that this blog has stopped doing any sponsored posts lol…Not the owner but the sponsors have decided to stop awarding jobs to this low traffic blog. Thanks to this ultra hardworking and ultra kind blogger, I have some, otherwise, there would be none. I have definitely not given up totally but seeing as how rankings are moving about within the blogsphere, I don’t mind it one bit if this blog has zero paid posting.
Then it sort of hit me, like a snowball. Whenever I could, I would snoop around at freelancing opportunities. Bloggers who have embarked on that road. It seemed like a possible mini career for me. The only restriction I have at the moment is time and that I don’t procrastinate so much. At least this way, I don’t have to think about search engines, traffic etc..matters synonymous with ‘making money from your blogs’. You don’t have to mix ‘work’ with ‘leisure’ like what I have been doing with paid postings. My blogs are supposed to be an outlet for my thoughts, I should really keep it separate. A fact which I am very aware of is that this freelance road, isn’t easy. Many have tried and are still trying. With the right attitude, I think anything is possible. The most important thing to remember not to think about the dollars and cents at first. Once you get the ball rolling, the dollars will roll along as well. What I am getting is that this blog will be, among other things, primarily focused on this new venture of mine. It will have a purpose, at least.
I was supposed to have my friend over to my house this afternoon. I haven’t seen her in ages and she was kind enough to visit us on her day off. I had to cancel the appointment. I felt bad but what can I do when family comes first. What happened? Its my sister again.
My mom called me this morning and told me that she was drunk this morning. Apparently, she drank a glass of whisky. She started to mumble and laugh hysterically when my mom called home to check on her. She is still feeling very depressed about the whole thing. To add to that, the “guy” called and wanted her back. This is beginning to sound like a child’s play. Can’t help it, they are still kids, uncertain and unsure.
I dropped my baby off to her grandmother’s and went over to check on my sister. We don’t know what she might do. At times she appears alright but I guess you can never fully recover from things like this can you? Even if you do, it will take time. I just hope that they will both work things out and be matured about the whole situation.
Me : Woah, its almost 2pm and you have just woken up?
Sister : Yeah. Had a late night last night *smile*
Me : Bet you did. Your “curry chicken” is in full view *snigger*
Sister : *rolls eye* whatever, Sis
Curry Chicken, translated from the Chinese term “kali kai” which is what we Chinese normally use to describe “love bites” on someone. I am not entirely sure where the term originated from but we have been using it…since…since I knew what it meant.
The middle child of the family never fails to come home with lots of “curry chicken” on her neck area after a date with her boyfriend. In the mornings, she would consciously cover them up with her super long hair. She is an accountant and she is obsessed. Continuously fussing about her boyfriend, clothes, her shoes, bags, hair, makeup etc… She is the OFFICIAL vain-pot of the family. Worst, she has appointed herself to be my daughter’s official coach on “the way to be a vain-pot” when she is of age!! *gasp*
Its difficult for me to describe her fully. She reminds me of Callie, the girl in the micro series called, whaddaya know, LoveBites. A scripted comedy comprising of 60 episodes of 2 minutes each. Here, I’ll give you a sneak preview of what its all about. When you see Callie, think of my sister. Yes, my sister is equally capable *wink*
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I started with this post but couldn’t continue. And I started this post last night but I couldn’t finish. Honestly, I don’t know what to say. I need to blog about this to get things off my chest otherwise, I’d continue to have this nagging feeling. I’ll try to say this without being vengeful, I’ll TRY.
On Sunday night, I received a phone call from my sister. Though we saw her in the afternoon, she didn’t say anything and appeared normal. I even asked her about the bridal flowers, whether she still wanted to order them from my neighbour. The first thing that came out from her was “Ceh, I am sorry”. She was sobbing. I asked her why. Then she said “Ah Ken called off the wedding.” I was stunned. The wedding is scheduled precisely a month from today and he decides to call it off the eleventh hour? I asked her if he gave her a reason and she said “He wanted more freedom as he has yet to enjoy life to the fullest”.
All I can say is “WTF??” What else can I say? WTF, again!! Now he tells when the wedding is precisely a month away, when my sister has quit her job (upon his request) so that she could run around town preparing for the wedding and the visa application. So, sitting for her exams were also part of the reason why she quit her job but that is besides the point. The point is, everyone was ready especially my sister, to start a new life miles away from home, gave up her career (though she has just started), give up her family and friends to get married.
This is beyond “cold feet”. He had a week to think things properly. After a week, he was more adamant. He is determined not to get married. Really came as a shocker to me, for all of us actually cos he really isn’t the type to be unsure of what he wants and worst, at the last minute. Its very unlike him to pull a stunt like that.
But at the end of the day, what can we really do? I don’t know. Maybe you can tell me whether we should be angry or relieved? Relieved that this happened sooner rather than later when they are really married and he wants out. For once I thought this guy could be the right one for my sister after all her previous boyfriends being jerks. I think, this one is the KING of all jerks. Not only did he disappoint my sister, he disappointed his parents. His dad paid for the majority of the expenses and with the cancellation, he asked his dad to foot the cancellation charges as well. Which is why I say that this is very unlike him. He is more responsible than that. According to my sister, there have been reports from reliable sources that he has changed quite a bit this past month.
I’ve been brought up in a family that puts other needs above ours. My first instinct was of course angry but then I wanted to see point of view of things. Perhaps he is young, he just recently started to work. His mom pushed the wedding forward even before considering whether he was ready. He agreed out of respect. My sister isn’t exactly easy to handle. Our women folk can be demanding at times. Not in terms of material wealth but attention. So, lets not be too harsh. Then I thought, WTF, we have been thinking about how other people would feel all the time. Its about time we start to think for ourselves. If he wasn’t ready, he should’ve told his mom that he wasn’t. No one forced him. If he didn’t want to stay in Australia, he should’ve told his mom that he wants to come home after his studies instead of staying back. He is old enough to know what he wants out of life, where he wants to be, where he wants to head towards, what his goals are. He may be too young to get married to some and yes, I agree. In fact, they are both too young. Barely out of college for him and my sister has only been out in the working field less than 3 years. It was just a terrible mistake that they both did. Just jumped the gun without truly evaluating the realities of marriage. Somethings’ do happen for a reason and I suppose you could say that is a blessing in disguise that this happened before they take the plunge. That would’ve been a little TOO LATE!
I expect alot of things, ALOT. What I didn’t or don’t expect is this piece of news!! Really, it came as a total shock to me.
What can I say? I am furious. I am angry. I am upset. I’m not in any position to say anything. -sigh-
I can blog about it though but I don’t have the words. Nothing will come out right. In fact, my mind is blank. If I wrote anything down right now, it’d be terribly incoherent. I don’t want that. I want it to come out as clear as crystal.
I will, blog about it when I am in a better mood but don’t bet on the post being kind, I won’t be gentle. I hope you had a better weekend than I did.
There was an opportunity for me to blog about an issue pertinent to women. What did I do? Jump at it of course. Not because it looks good on my blog (it does, by the way. Writing about women issues always perks a woman blog up) but because self esteem is something women across the board battle with, constantly. Either they have it or they lack of it. Either way, its one of the most talked about issue but appears not enough of.
I am a victim. Which is why I decided to write something about it. I can blame it on my childhood, treatment from my parents. I am never good enough, not pretty enough, not hardworking enough, not studious enough…the list can go on and on. They always compared me with kids of their friends, my friends, kids who they see in the newspaper, on television. How everyone was better than me and I should be like everyone else but me.
This affected me because I grew up always needing approval over and over. If someone told me I was pretty, I didn’t believe them. If someone told me I was smart, I didn’t believe them. I never felt I was good for anything and anyone. Even until now when I have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful husband, this self doubt is still there.
Many have said that self esteem issues stem from childhood and how you were treated during that time. While it may be true to a certain extent but I doubt that even in a perfect state, a person escapes the lack of confidence or if you had a less than perfect childhood, you are doomed for life. I know of personal friends who decided that they needed to take charge of their lives when no one will and do something about it. They started to believe in themselves. They worked hard at making themselves feel good inside and out. Organizations like Dove realized that self esteem issues are very real especially among girls/women. They have come up with a campaign called “Join Dove to Raise Self Esteem” where they aim to help millions of affected young girls/women out there in raising self esteem.
I am still struggling, really. Its not easy but the one thing I learned is that as humans, we have flaws. We are who we make ourselves to be. The most beautiful person can be ugly on the inside. We make the best of what we have and to our capabilities. To be confident when no one shares the same thoughts. Its not easy but it boils down to us, deep inside where only we have access to, no one else. We have to learn not to let the past dictate our future. We can’t choose our family but we sure as hell can choose us.
