Sometimes, mom gives good advice…
In most cases, yes my mom do but half of the time, I think she listens to what others have to say far too much. Is my mom the only one like that or is it a trait of a woman. I think it is because we women always inferior and the weaker sex. For some reason, we seem to place that extra pressure on ourselves just to prove that we can ‘do a good job. My hubby told me before that women are the ones with the ego problem and they actually have the world’s biggest ego..LOL…somehow, I can’t help but to agree.
As much as we don’t want to admit the fact but subconsciously we always feel the need to do better and be better than everyone, to be perfect. We need to be the perfect mom, cook, employee or business woman. There is just no room for mistakes and we are often very anal about the nitty gritty. We mirco-manage everything in our lives and one wrong move, could spell a whole world of trouble. That means no validation from our counter-parts or peers and this “validation” is crucial as to why we are, who we are in the first place. We need to hear that “Wow, you are great!”, “Good job” or “No one can do it any better than you”. Its more of a female thing than a male thing.
So, my mom perhaps not the very high end of the female spectrum, but she still needs validation from her kids, husband and family in general. I would often hear things like “Eat your fruits, so and so, says so” or “walk straight up or you’ll need a posture corrector just like so and so’s daughter”. Often referring to someone and so and so…there was never something that she felt strongly about or it came from her. I wished she had though. I wished to had the will and the courage to believe and because of the generation she was in I.e the male dominance, my father, she always felt weaker. You know, if she knew what we know now or had access to the multitude of information about being confident, being secure, I think she would’ve done really well. She is improving but because of her age, I doubt that will go very far. There’s still a glimmer of hope, isn’t there?
